By Nairaland Forum I will really need the input of married men and women on this thread.
So yesterday at the bar, you know, ashawo bar, I sat in the same table with a married man, looked early 40’s to me. He got drunk and got all chit chat with me.
He told me that he actually picked up ashawo life style after marriage, told me his wife always used sex as a bargaining chip early in their marriage, and often looked for the slightest reason not to have sex.
He said his first time cheating was after his first child, that his wife refused his touch for more than 3 months, he got to cheat with one of his colleagues at work (lest I forget, the man is well learned and rich too, I could get this from his fluency in English and his car).
The affair almost cost him his marriage. When mata cast, everyone blamed him, but he couldn’t tell them how his wife deprived him of sex. He was later forgiven by the wife and the marriage continued.
According to him, before long the wife went back to her style of sexual deprivation, was only active when they wanted children. He did mention that he doesn’t think the wife cheated, he has monitored her, and as far as he could tell, the wife was an always at home type of woman, and according to him was a good woman apart from the sex thing.
Before long he went back to cheating again, and that was when he started ashawo life style, he choose not to have a relationship with anyone again because of the threat it posed to his marriage.
He said he is sure his wife knows of his ashawo life style, but never talked about it for the sake of peace, and he has been living like that for more than 10 yrs, and their sex life though not dead comes once in a while, few times in a year.
He advised me that if I should cheat, that I should never keep a relationship with anyone, that I should try as much as possible to make it just about sex. Me that’s planning to never cheat on my wife.
So married men, do your wives ever keep you for months without sex?
Also do husbands deprive their wives of sex?
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Source:: Nigerian Chatter