Men are believed to have high sex drive in marriages but women too can, depending on several factors. Being married to someone with a low sex drive when one has a high sex drive can be frustrating.
Reflecting on the issue, a husband, Mr Utoro Ubong, said that he studied his wife before they got married hence he doesn’t make too much demand from her.
Ubong said that being the one with a high sex drive in their marriage, his wife doesn’t complain about it.
He said, “I studied her before marriage because I have been exposed to sex and she has not been exposed by then. Due to this, I decided to ensure that I don’t demand too much so that she won’t get tired of the entire thing.
“I don’t feel frustrated when she can’t satisfy me or explore new sex styles. Sex is gradual, for someone like her who has not been really exposed to the physical practice of sex before marriage, there’ll be limitations. As a result of this, that’s where my own understanding comes in and with time she’ll get better. In fact, she’s getting better gradually. In a matter of time, she will be at that level where she won’t complain.”
He said the both reached a compromise before marriage, noting that it made everything work well.
Ubong stated, “You can’t have a marriage without reaching a compromise. We both had to find a common ground and it made sense. Before marriage, we underwent counselling and I guess that’s why it’s working. The counselling we got before marriage isn’t just restricted to our daily lives alone, it cuts deeply into our sexual lives and it’s applicable.”
In his contribution to the issue, a married man and pharmacist, Mr Dan Rujah, said it was good for couples to understand one another before they married.
He said, “Of course, before we got married, we dated and in one way or the other, I must have known that part of her. This means before I got married, I should prepare beforehand to play my own side and to make sure I was ready and that’s probably why we say ‘I do’ to each other.
“In a situation where I never knew before marriage and she kept on pestering me for sex, I will take some steps. To satisfy her, I will make sure I’m healthy. I’ll keep fit and eat good food, so I Read More
Source:: Nigerian Chatter
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